sockmap: convert refcnt to an atomic refcnt

The sockmap refcnt up until now has been wrapped in the
sk_callback_lock(). So its not actually needed any locking of its
own. The counter itself tracks the lifetime of the psock object.
Sockets in a sockmap have a lifetime that is independent of the
map they are part of. This is possible because a single socket may
be in multiple maps. When this happens we can only release the
psock data associated with the socket when the refcnt reaches
zero. There are three possible delete sock reference decrement
paths first through the normal sockmap process, the user deletes
the socket from the map. Second the map is removed and all sockets
in the map are removed, delete path is similar to case 1. The third
case is an asyncronous socket event such as a closing the socket. The
last case handles removing sockets that are no longer available.
For completeness, although inc does not pose any problems in this
patch series, the inc case only happens when a psock is added to a
map.

Next we plan to add another socket prog type to handle policy and
monitoring on the TX path. When we do this however we will need to
keep a reference count open across the sendmsg/sendpage call and
holding the sk_callback_lock() here (on every send) seems less than
ideal, also it may sleep in cases where we hit memory pressure.
Instead of dealing with these issues in some clever way simply make
the reference counting a refcnt_t type and do proper atomic ops.

Signed-off-by: John Fastabend <john.fastabend@gmail.com>
Acked-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>
Signed-off-by: Daniel Borkmann <daniel@iogearbox.net>